Like any being of flesh and blood, I certainly have things that are tremendous pet peeves for me. I figured I'd start my first peeve off with something that annoys me in the realm of guys/dating/courting etc. Who doesn't like reading about that stuff?
Truth: I haven't really had a real relationship so my experiences are limited in dating. I've had a lot of crushes on people I cannot have (some I could have if I had been confident, some I REALLY cannot for reasons) and "almosts." I used to really be that girl who would like a guy and fail to get the hint that he wasn't interested in me too. I would text, Facebook, and invite them everywhere. Usually I would suffer in silence and never mention it to the guy, granted if any of them had brain cells I don't think it would be that difficult to catch when someone is interested in you. I also made the stupid mistake of getting my friends involved, you know, the whole "can you go talk to him for me, please?" Don't do that. It gets nowhere.
Fast forward to now, I would hope that at twenty-four I have grown up a little bit and I know when something is okay or not. I know when I need to move on (even if it's hard). Lately though, it seems like the tables have turned, and instead of me being the girl who likes the guy who isn't interested, I am the one attracting gentleman callers who I am not interested in. Maybe it's just that I'm noticing it now or something. Currently, honestly, I have not been interested in anybody for quite a long time. I've entertained silly crushes on people that will go nowhere, but as far as guys who are there, my age...not lately. During school I'd keep myself so busy that dating was never on my mind, and was just friendly to everyone because, generally, I am a nice person.
The big issue I have is with guys being interested who cannot move on from their exes, and this is a tremendous annoyance. Maybe if I were actually interested in a guy who was recently dumped I would be more merciful, but right now I'm not. The thing is, I can understand that breaking up is hard because you go from having someone you love and spend so much time with, and then suddenly it's over. It's lonely. Maybe they've moved on and you have yet to. I get it, ouch. However, when I meet a guy who, drunk or sober, is still moping about their ex, yet trying to get with me, I am turned off. I don't expect for anyone to be able to just pull the trigger, and be done with the emotions, but if you're still hurting, you need to avoid relationships.
Also, just a heads up, speaking negatively about the ex is a huge red flag to stay away. I don't want to hear you talk about your ex being a bitch, or that she's suddenly gotten so fat. Apart from it being immature, it indicates to me that if you were to ever date me, and we broke up, you would say these things about me, AND it tells me you aren't over it. I don't know many girls who want to date guys who are still hung up on their exes in some way.
I personally, as well, am not interesting in dating a guy who is still sleeping with the ex. Yes, this happened. Friends tried to set me up with a guy who was still aching over his ex, and eventually they just became sexual. Even better, the guy told me how he liked girls with a particular haircut...the same cut his ex had. To this day, I think that guy just wanted to get laid and fill a void. I'm not here for that.
While I'm on the subject of things I don't like guys doing in attempts at courtship; please don't message me over Facebook trying to hit on me. It's annoying and weird. Especially if you're drunk. There's nothing more of a turn off than someone hitting you up while they're wasted. I suppose some people would find it flattering to be thought about by someone while they're drunk, ya know, they are out of their mind yet they can still think of you...no. Hell no. It's a turn off. I get that you may not have my number, so if you want to contact me then Facebook is the only option, that's different. Just think about what you're saying and how you go about it.
These are just my personal feelings. You're allow to disagree, but these are things I cannot stand. I am not going to sleep with you to fill the void of your ex, nor will I fix your post break-up self esteem. If you need to diss your ex, don't do it around me because I will not be interested (even if I were in the first place).
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